Campaign Story

My name is Jess and I have wanted to be a mother since I was 22 years old. My whole life I have loved kids, but it wasn’t until my 22nd year that it hit me out of the blue and I realized all I wanted in life was a family. I became a nanny for a family with two very young children and even though they weren’t mine, the motherly instinct was so forceful it was almost overwhelming. After I left the city I was living in to move back home, I found another family to nanny for with another two young children and I spent 3 years with them before I started my career in radiology. The time I spent with both of those families was amazing, and I learned a lot about what it is to be a parent, and to be a parent with a career. After my first year working as a radiology tech, I actually met my partner who is a correctional officer at the facility I worked at when he brought an inmate in for an exam. The second I saw him I knew he was the person I wanted to spend my life with and we quickly started dating and immediately fell in love. We had the discussion about family and kids and found out that we both wanted 4 kids. It was an absolute match made in heaven. We have been together for almost 5 years and have been trying for kids since we basically met. It wasn’t until this past year that I decided something was wrong and we found out that between the both of us, getting pregnant naturally was going to be impossible. The news was absolutely heartbreaking, and I felt like my dream of motherhood was shattered. I was depressed and could hardly function, but the doctor assured us that with IVF we would be parents. It took some time for me to be okay with our situation. The visions of telling our parents they would be grandparents, of the surprise of seeing the little blue line, the announcements, all of it was gone. But we started the IVF journey in March and have already had one successful egg retrieval and now we are waiting to see if the medication is working for my partner. I will be going through another egg retrieval in July and the financial burden is already taking a toll on us. We both have great careers, but my insurance doesn’t cover fertility costs, except for a one time lump sum which we have already gone through, and the debt we will be in after all of the treatments is going to make actually starting a family really difficult. We’ve been given a financial breakdown and it is still going to cost us at least another $30k as long as everything goes well after my next retrieval. I stumbled across this website while looking for potential loans and thought what a great opportunity it would be for any financial assistance. My dreams of becoming a mother and my partners dream of becoming a father are close, and this would make the whole process just a little bit easier.